I want my husbsnd to quit smoking dope every day? -
He smokes dope every day and ive asked him to give it up or we are finished. He said he wont give it up as im trying to control him, im not I just want a normal life
If he was smoking it when u met him then theres not really much u can do ... if u dislike it that much then leave him .. empty threats never work :(
Does he smoke all day long, or is it just social smoking. Did he smoke it when you got married, If he did you excepted him into you life knowing full well how it is and was. Does he drink. Does he smoke crack. Does he do hard drugs. If smoking a little pot socially is the worse thing he does. Then let it be. If he is smoking tooooooooooo much then just ask nicely if maby he would cut it back a tad. Just remember the more ultamatoms you give him, the more he is going to rebel. If you are so ready to leave him maby his smoking pot is just an excuse for you to get out of the marriage. Besides what is a normal life in this day and age.
sounds like hes responded with the stereotypical cannabis smokers response. ask him to stop for two weeks and see if he feels better. cannabis smokers do not have much motivation to change as they seem to have themselves on a pedistal above everyone else. but yeh he-ll only change if he wants to and should realise hes better of after a few weaks of being sober. trying to get him to try cutting it down to just weekends might be a good idea. if he wont try then i guess you should leave and let him relise wat hes missing out on. going on a holiday where he wont be around people smoking it may be a good idea.
The only way he will quit is if HE wants to.
Don-t know where you live, but you-ll want to make sure you completely understand the marijuana laws in your area. In the U.S. we have a -property forfeiture- law that can result in a person losing their house if there is a drug related arrest made on the property. If you have children this is of GREAT importance.
Property forfeiture also means he can lose the car, boat, or any other jointly owned property he may be using if he gets arrested.
Learn about the law, educate him about the law. Maybe you two can come to some agreement about his pot smoking if he understands it puts you and your children at such grave risk legally.
Good luck!
He has made his choice. If you really cant live with his choice them make your own choice. He is only saying you are trying to control him because he doesnt want to give it up. Would he say you were trying to control him if you asked him to cut down on food if he was morbidly obese? I dont think so. It-s affected his brain and made him selfish. Start thinking about yourself, because he isnt.
If you threaten to do that and not carry it out then you-ve lost,and its not about control at all, theres nothing wrong with wanting a normal life, but you need to be strong and give him an ultimatum and stick to it!! He might stop if he loses you, if not then thats his loss!!
For someone who has became addicted to dope never really knows when to quit until something has gone.
Give him his last and final warning, be firm and say if he doesn-t quit then you and him are finished.
If he still remains try telling him about tough love.
He has to see for himself that the weed is a negative in his life ... If he loses you over this , he may come to his senses . If he doesn-t , you-ve lost nothing ... good luck .
Mine is the same way....I tried Hiding it on him but he gets real angry so don-t try that. The only way he is going to stop is if he wants to. Your only choice might be to leave.....
That-s what may need to happen! Leave and maybe he will wake up and see that you are not joking.
Make good on your promise.
thats his fault for being a dope