How can I convince my fianceacute; to quit smoking? -
He respects my choice not to smoke and I understand that I can-t make him do something he isn-t ready to do, but how can I explain to him how much I hate the smell and having to breathe the second-hand smoke without sounding accusatory or nagging? We want to start a family but I don-t want my children exposed to that and I would prefer that he stick around to grow old with me.
explain to him that you dont want to sound nagging and that you love him and respect his decision, but you would be eternally gratefull if hed stop smokin. Your line -I would prefer that he stick around to grow old with me.- would do it for me. Alot of love there. Maybe it will do it for him too. Good luck.
Secondhand smoke is just as bad, if not worse than actually smoking the cigarette. Tell him his smoking is not only affecting his health, but your health. You could get lung cancer or have a stroke from his smoking habit. If he loves you, that will make him think. Offer to help him quit and work together to find a method that works. This is the 21st century, smoking is no longer cool.
Why take away the only manly thing he has going for him. 2nd hand smoke is an old wives tale. The tobacco industries the world over, make more money combined than doctors do. If it was bad why was smoking created and developed? If he quits smoking, he might switch to alcohol or drugs. Those two are worse than smoking.
Know what you mean. My fiance- has smoked forever and I have asked him when he is going to quite. We have a 7 month old little girl and I refuse to let him take her in his truck because of the smell! I guess the answer is that they have to be ready to quite. I think we are going to try a treatment at a chiropractors office. SOme use acupunture but this is a shock treatment. I know it sounds awful but it is just little spots like on the ear that they do. The success rate is about 85% and usually only requires one 99.00 dollar treatment. Lot less then what is spent on the cigs. Anyway just be patient and hopefully he will want to quite on his own free will. Best of luck, been there and still doing it!
He has to want to do it for HIMSELF over and above wanting to do it for anyone else.
Start with how it will help HIM if he quit. Sperm count will go up, stamina will go up, ability to breathe after climbing stairs will come back.
Then tell him about how it will benefit your relationship and your future children.
Then tell him how you feel about the stench, the health worries, the PASSIVE SMOKING you are being subjected to, etc.
Then widen it up further by telling him how his children will want him around to learn from him what is right and wrong. Does he want his kids growing up thinking that smoking is good, because their Dad does it - and Dads are heroes to their kids.
Talk to a counsellor or doctor about it and see what they suggest too. They could provide you with lots of statistics and stuff to back your -feelings- up with.
PS Zorro, please don-t give misleading and incorrect advice.
Tell him you love him too much to see him ruin his health. Hypnotherapy works well, if he ever decides to quit.
use something for substitute when hes on the nerves to smoke. let him know that this is ultimately poisoning both of you...
talk to him, and make him understand that his smoking is affecting you. make compromises, like he could smoke, but has to smoke outside and things like that.
Tell-em do take a class, 89% of the people that take the smokin class quit smokin with in 30 days. U must quit smokin for at least 10 days, during those 10 days and the rest of the 20, u take this medication, that basically tells yer body that, -smokin is badd- the next time u try to smoke, is gonna taste like strate booty, and you-ll never wanna smoke again. Ask your docyor about it, if he can agree that its badd, and can agree that he wants to quit, then yall should be fine
Just tell him about all the diseases he could get from smoking...
well, told him if he never stop u will smoke too... i know and we know that guys dont want there lover also smoke. and also if he smoke again drag his cigarette and pump it... and look what he did...
Tell him how much you love him. And that you want him to live a long life, and not die from getting cancer of smoking. Tell him you dont want your children getting second hand smoke, and tell him that you dont want your children to be exposed to that.
First tell him how you feel about him smoking and how bad is the effect for second hand smokers... Also, if he wants children he better lay off those cigs -coz for sure that habit reduces the number of healthy spermies he can produce and also if that doesn-t work post a huge poster of an unhealthy lungs of smoker that for sure will scare the hell out of people and him too in the process...
Id refuse to kiss him again until he quit...but that might just be me lol
slap him!! no just do a reward system....